Saturday, May 7, 2011

Blessings 2&3 {Part 4 ~ Fine Tooth Comb}

In case you missed the previous posts…Part 1, Part 2, Part 3

Holt International is the agency that the twins were wait listed with. Prior to letting Holt know that we wanted to move forward with the twins, we were told about the committee process. It is a process that any family wishing to adopt a waiting child must go through. Holt has a committee that meets to discuss and pray over matches every Thursday.

Any family that had reviewed the twins file and had not gotten back with Holt letting them know whether or not they wanted to move forward, had to be contacted via email and be given the opportunity to go to committee against us. This was nerve wracking. They had 2 weeks to respond. If they  ALL responded early enough, we wouldn’t have to wait the full 2 weeks and we could have gone to committee the first Thursday that rolled around. Well, as we assumed it would happen, there were 2 families who never got back with Holt after at least one email and 2 phone calls to decline going to committee…so we did have to wait the full 2 weeks. It was sort of a relief that none of the other families were going to committee. We had spent 2 months investing so much into making sure it was right, but we also knew this was one way God would open or shut this door.

Even though we were the only family the committee was deciding on, Holt was still dedicated to making sure we were the RIGHT family. Their mission is to find families for children not the other way around. During the two weeks we waited for other families to say yes or no, we were given 3 extensive questionnaires to fill out and return to Holt’s waiting child program coordinator. Eventually, the big day rolled around.
We prayed together before the interview and then as soon as we said amen, the phone rang!
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The interview consisted of her calling us to review the questions, answer any additional questions that they came up with specific to this situation, and then wait for that interview to be presented to the committee the following Thursday. A typical interview lasts around an hour. Ours lasted almost 2 hours, I guess that is fitting since we are being blessed with TWO kiddos Smile We are also quite the talkers and Brandon and I kept signaling for each other to “cut it out.” We tried super hard to be prepared and ready so that must have came through in our diligence with answering each question (at least that’s what we were telling ourselves afterward).

All bases were covered in the interview: How did we feel about the potential special needs? What resources do we have at our disposal? How do we handle stress? How do we think Harrison will adjust? How was Harrison’s adoption adjustment period? What is our plan if we get overwhelmed? What expectations do we have with toddler adoption? What kind of support network do we have? How flexible are our jobs? What do we plan to do to foster attachment and handle the period of grief? and on and on and on! Like, I said…fine.tooth.comb!

Harrison busted into our bedroom where we had set up our little conference call
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right as we were wrapping things up. (He was in the living room with  his aunt) We were on speaker phone so he said a few things and then we were done! The interview took place on a Monday evening and we had to wait for our case to be presented on Thursday.

On Thursday, April 28th, my phone rang around 1:30pm. I almost didn’t hear it, but I got to it just in time and Jessica was on the phone from Holt. She started out by letting us know a few things that the committee would like us to keep in mind and then she said the words that we were hoping for, "Well, overall, the committee was very impressed with your family and they feel that you guys are a great match for the twins!!!!!!”

This was music to our ears. We weren’t sure if we’d know for sure that day. Jessica started out our interview call that Monday warning us that being the only family going to committee, we shouldn’t be surprised if they called us Thursday with additional questions, instructions on what additional things we need to do before they make a final decision, or even requirements for us to do some additional training/reading! We had already waited over 2 months from the first glance at their beautiful faces so we really hoped that we could convey all that the committee would need for their decision during the interview! The Lord certainly answered that prayer! I immediately hung up and called Brandon. We celebrated over the phone and basically jumped right into, “What’s next?”

It wasn’t long before MaryLeigh texted me and told me to take a look at the twins photo listing on the website…
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What a beautiful, beautiful, beautiful sight! Smile

OH, and for those wondering the gender of the twins, I suppose the pictures of these 2 care packages that I just put together might give you a hint! MaryLeigh is taking these to Seoul when they travel to bring home their 2ND son from SK soon!!
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How FUN, crazy, exhausting, blessed, is this going to be??? VERY & we can’t wait!

Now to Him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to His power that is at work within us. Ephesians 3:20

11 comments:

Sheila said...

April,

I'm sure you don't remember me, but I bought some personalized items for my daughter Susannah off of your ebay site a few years ago (when we were living in Kansas).

We are an active duty Army family and happen to be completing our first (of three) years here at Yongsan USAG, in Seoul, South Korea.

If you need ANYTHING that I can help you with from this end of the world, please let me know.

I've been following your adoption journey since the beginning and I'm so amazed at how your family has grown. I love how God works!

My email address is sheila.gober@yahoo.com

I'm so happy for you and your family!

Sheila Gober

Lara said...

Rejoicing with you!! Isn't it amazing when agencies are so prayerful about matching children with families? God is so good.

mary leigh said...

Ahhhh, I just noticed something. Twinkie on the left of the pic (I won't reveal which one) is wearing the same socks (the pink ones) that Bates wore on his gotcha day!

Amber said...

This is all very exciting! You guys have been busy, busy! Congratulations on your new additions! Hope things continue to go smoothly moving forward. We will keep your sweet family in our prayers.

michelle said...

Congratulations on your exciting news!!

Mark & Kris said...

So excited for you guys!! Can't wait to see their little faces and you holding them!

Alicia said...

Congratulations Smith Family!!!! I have loved following your family's journey and can't wait to watch how God provides again and again. So exciting.

P.S. Happy Mother's Day, April x 3. :)

JulieM said...

I have no idea how I originally found your blog but have been checking in on your blog ever since your first journey to your sweet boy. We just got home 3 months ago with a little boy from China and Holt was our agency. We have nothing but amazing things to say about them :)! We have 3 biological children as well but God has broken my heart for the orphans so I often check the waiting child listing for Holt. I saw your sweet twins and just knew they would find a special forever family. I was very excited to see the "I have a family" posted on their picture and now am even more excited that you are their family. I am excited that I get to follow along on your journey to them. God is good! I love watching him at work!

Melanee said...

that is amazing april! God is so good! happy mother's day

Denice said...

SO excited for you guys!! I have goosebumps! :-)

The H Family said...

Was just catching up on some blogs--CONGRATULATIONS!! And welcome to the twin club...those babies are going to be such special blessings to your family.